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Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Authors and widely respected therapists and ACOA workshop leaders Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understanding, stage-by-stage: Survival
* Emergent Awareness
* Core Issues
* Transformations
* Integration
* Genesis.
If you feel troubled by your post, Recovery will start you on the path of self-awareness, as it explores the searching questions adult children of alcoholics seek to hove answered:
* How con I overcome my need for control?
* Do all ACOAs ploy the some kind of roles in the family?
* How do I overcome my fear of intimacy?
* What is all-or-none functioning?
* How can ACOAs maintain self-confidence and awareness after recovery?
* How do ACOAs handle the family after understanding its influence?
* And many other important questions about your post, family and feelings.
Written with warmth, joy and real understanding, Recovery will inspire you to meet the challenges of the post and overcome the obstacles to your happiness.
Customers say
Customers find the book insightful and informative. They describe it as well-written, easy to read, and a quick read. Readers appreciate the question-and-answer format that organizes the chapters by questions instead of pure theory. The book is not too long and provides helpful insights without fluff. Overall, customers consider it compassionate and helpful in developing forgiveness for themselves and others.
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Price: $22.00 - $13.79
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Jacqueline Gainer –
A MUST read!
Truly, this book was one of the most influential I’ve read on the subject of childhood trauma. (And I’ve read a LOT!) I gained new insights that I haven’t gleaned elsewhere, and I deeply appreciate the knowledge and wisdom the authors share throughout this hidden gem.
Roxanne S. –
A great read
It opened my eyes
D. B. –
Very enjoyable, recommended ACOA literature.
I’m halfway through this book. I’m writing the review now because it’s already one of my favorite pieces of ACOA literature.The book has a question and answer format. It covers very important topics that I thought were helpful like the chapter on emergent awareness. Some questions come out when you discover how big the trauma you endured was. Can I bring this information to my family to save them? Is being ACOA the reason for all of my problems or none of my problems? How do I move forward when I receive this clarity? How do I go about finding a counsellor?Often the book poses these thought-provoking questions and answers them, and it answers them with some beautiful language. Some things are so clear, and speak so well to me that I can’t help but enjoy the whole of the book. The book advises that you pick it up and put it down again so as not to overwhelm yourself with too many new thoughts, and it’s a very good suggestion. I read between 3 and 5 pages a day, learning a little bit more and more about the disease (this is my third ACOA book, by the way).It’s a very short book at around a hundred pages. I think that’s why it’s so nice to just pick it up every now and then. I don’t want it to end too quickly.If you have questions about why you act the way you do after growing up in an addicted family system, this might be a great starting point for someone.
Debra Lamb –
A Must Read Book for Children of Alcoholics
I realize how alcoholism can affect me and my family. It was really an eye opener for me. A must read book.
Becky G –
I use this book professionally
Itâs easily understood and one of my top books that have been misappropriated over the years by patients that I lend it too. It is great at creating that light bulb moment, of why I act and react the way one does, when faced with lifeâs circumstances. A real healer.
Wayne Durning –
If you grew up around alcoholism read this book
Very eye opening. I’ve read a lot of books but none that described my family and my point of view so well. It is both a little disheartening and a little comforting to see how common (or similar) are the roles played out in families where kids grew up around alcoholism. Disheartening because you like to think you made your own choices in life and chose to be how you are only to find that, unique as you may be, you are probably still playing out the same role in the same play as many other families. Like our families are repertory theater companies all doing our own interpretation of Hamlet (more like Long Days Journey Into Night.) And comforting because 1 – it kind of makes me feel a little less responsible for being less normal than other people – this book is evidence (circumstantial though it may be) that those “normal” people would have been the same under the same conditions. And 2 – I feel a certain camaraderie with the other repertories out there. If you grew up around alcoholism you should read this book.
Mad Russian –
Start With This Book
Like others before me, I thought that since I had ‘survived’ and moved away that I was good.Like others before me, I when I started reading I found that I had only survived, and even then with only a minimal set of emotional skills that would take me through the rest of my life. After multiple failed relationships I have one now that I’m going to fight for. One of the biggest ways is for me to learn what I went through, try to repair what damage I can and to begin the process of making a better me.I’ve just begun to read some of the books that are out there, and while I wished for more, this is the perfect book to start your journey with. It comes in the form of questions and answers. If you are like I was reading the questions alone was one of the biggest shocks of my life. The how’s and why’s are here, as they are in most books, what’s as important to me now is the ‘where do we go from here’ and ‘what should I expect now’ aspect of the healing process. For me, that makes this book head and shoulders above the rest of the ones I’ve read so far.I would recommend this book without reservation for anyone that ‘survived’ an alcoholic family environment.
silvergirl –
You, too, can recover…
I always knew what the problems were growing up. Fortunately, I never blamed myself, unlike others often do. But I never really understood how it all affected me, my personality development, my outlook on life, and how I perceive and react to other people. You bet I engage in “black and white thinking” as the authors discuss. After reading the book, I realized I have been “in recovery” for the last 22 years and just did not know it– it began with my moving to the next state, and having less contact with toxic family members. For most of my adult life, I have removed myself from situations where people act like jerks to me, instead of cutting them slack or putting up with bad behavior– I think it’s the recovery and my instinct to protect myself– I am no longer the scapegoat like I had been in my family. This book was eye-opening for me and I think it will be for anyone looking to understand what their role in their family was and how it has shaped them as a person.
Amazon Customer –
Information here that I needed and couldn’t find anywhere else.
Virginie Greliche –
Clear, precise, easy to read (even for the non native anglophone me) this book provides tremendous help page after page and never ever pulls the guilty string (unlike some recovery programs).I chose to read it to deal with my narcissist parent background, because yes, it works not only for Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents, but also for Adult Children of Narcissist Parents. Pete Walker recommended to read it in his excellent C-PTDS From surviving to thriving, and God was he right!Take some time for you, sit in your best armchair and enjoy!
Amazon Customer –
I wasn’t sure how helpful such an old book could be for me, but I’m so glad I read it. This book explains so much of why I, as an ACOA, have many of the personality traits I do, and it does so in a simply, accessible way. The question and answer format was especially helpful, as it helped to break things down into bite size pieces, allowing me to make my way through the book at my own pace.
AnnB –
This book is excellent and I read it in 2 days as I couldnât put it down. For anyone raised in an alcoholic household these kinds of books are âmust readsâ. I would also recommend therapists read ACOA literature, as strangely, there are very few therapists who have heard of or have a good understanding of ACOA.
Amazon Customer –
Amazing book. I was looking for something that would help me to complete putting myself together, and this book just did it in one go. Well, not in one go, but put me on a steady forest way out of lifetime confusion and running after the stars of the world without understanding why I’m doing that.